Most guys have a type. Whether it’s, petite or curvy, sporty or sophisticated, men go after their type, swoop in, and hope to score.

The thing is, guys are pretty clear about the kind of woman they want to date, but at some point they’ll meet “the one.” She may not even be their usual type at first, which could actually be the cause for the insatiable fascination and infatuation.

Here are 14 ways to tell she’s wife material.

She doesn’t smother you. She knows you have friends and need your “guy time.” What’s more, she happy that you go out and have fun with your buds.
Girls just wanna have fun. She’s able to let her hair down and just have a good time. But…
…she’s also responsible. She’s not a non-stop party girl.
She’s a great cook and enjoys it. There’s a lot of truth behind that whole “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach” line.
She puts up with your crap. Guys do a lot of stupid things. Apparently it’s in our genes. (Or is that jeans?) Rather than just bail or call it quits, she tolerates some of the more idiotic things you do. But then again…
She’s not a door mat. She may let you get away with something once or twice, but she’ll most definitely let you know she’s not happy about it.
She’s self-confident. Nothing, as in nothing, is sexier on a woman than self-confidence. Which reminds me of another good point.
She’s sexy. Hey, guys are 95 percent visual creatures, so if just looking at your huge… tracts of land helps him stand at attention, that’s a good thing.
She’ll watch Die Hard with you. Granted, you’ll probably have to suck it up and see some Renee Zellweger flick, but compromise is the strongest pillar in any marriage.
She’s good with money. Good at making money is even better, but it’s great if she can keep her eye on the checkbook and make educated purchasing decisions. Somebody has to, right?
She has a sense of humor. Whether she’s cracking jokes or laughing it up at yours, she definitely knows that, as Oscar Wilde puts it “Life is too important to be taken seriously.”
She takes care of you. When you’re home sick, she’ll race over with a container of chicken soup. She’ll cover you with blankets, prop your head up with pillows, and rent your favorite movies. She’ll do everything she can to nurse you back to health.
She has goals. Doesn’t matter if it’s career goals, life goals, or wanting to climb Mount Everest, she has dreams and isn’t afraid to go after them.
She makes you a better person. She makes you want to do more, be more. When you’re with her, you really work at becoming a better man all around.

Programmer and ardent blogger Dave Ozoalor has recently posted a controversial article on his page (at http://www.braintem.com ) that is currently going viral and getting lots of responses. Here is the article below.

Read this before you get very rich or very famous:
So you really want to get very rich and famous? Its good though, but I think it’s over hyped. People rarely talk about the downside of it all. I would be listing the downsides of getting rich that I think you should consider before you move on to be wealthy – if you would still want to after this article.

Getting very rich will get you some great stuffs like:
1. Holidays
2. Travels
3. Private Jet
4. Mansion
5. Funding for your passion
6. Gold teeth
7. Tattoos all over your body
8. Good health care
9. Great Outfit
10. Respect

Feel free to substitute your own desires and illusions. Personally, I’d love to buy a growing third world country and sell it when it becomes a first world country!

Now let’s get down to the pros and cons; having a lot of money has a number of disadvantages especially if you didn’t pass through poverty, struggle and suffering to get it. If your wealth came over night, like inheriting the wealth of a dead loved one, then the drawbacks am about to list will be more pronounced in your life:

1. Die young: We’ve seen curt cobain shoot himself, Whitney Houston take drugs until she drowned in a bathub, Michael Jackson, Private Jet Plane crashes etc. Only the rich can afford to be taking such heavily expensive hard drugs that could trigger depression and in turn suicide when they are not taken. Only the rich ride in private jets, if it crashes like we’ve sometimes seen, only the rich die. We watched Dagrin get drunk in a night club and attempt to drive himself back home late at night in his new car, you know the end of the story – he crashed and died. If he wasn’t rich, he wouldn’t be driving a car in the first place. Let alone driving home late at night, drunk.

2. Loss of Peace: Money may take away your peace. You are always after who wants to cheat you in business and who isn’t. You have armed body guard around you and around your house always. This is even more frustrating for your children. As they cant mix freely with other children and can’t tell why. They could get kidnapped.

If you aren’t stingingly rich, your neighbors won’t be a threat to your life. They don’t have to.

1. End of your goals and ambitions: Children born into money and people who got so rich along the way see with their own eyes as their dreams disappear. This leaves them no purpose to live for. No joy of struggle and victory which is inherent in humans. This lack may cause our next point.

2. Imbecility/Stupidity/Low IQ/Madness: Have you ever heard about crazy things super rich people do? Buying a yatch for as much as $20m . Would they abandon their house and live in a boat? What does it make them? Columbus J . No dreams, so children of super rich people find themselves doing crazy things like drawing tattoos all over their body, looking for trouble everywhere and so on, developing stupid phobia that was never there.

3. Being Judged unfairly: Most poor people think all rich people cheated them. You are in this category so when something bad happens to you, be ready to have sadists in their millions. Most People are tempted to think you are “lucky” or that your money fell from the skies. Or that you owe it to humanity to help them since you now have more money than them.

4. Someone is richer than you: La la la la, it never ends, you will always see someone richer than you. It’s a fault you’ll never be able to fix.

5. You’ll never get that awesome feeling of being in want and struggle, then finally getting the solution that what you desire. It’s a fulfilling desire you’ll never ever get again, except you kill yourself and start all over again! Which is what many do.

6. Suicide: everything becomes boring so you are tempted most of the times to kill yourself out of depression or loneliness of living in a large well fortified lonely mansion with no neighbours.

7. Lack of true friends: all you ever get is business partners and false friends who love you for your money. No real friends again.

8. Confusion: buy a new house, sell it, buy another, crumble it, build another. Live a little while there, then sell it and start all over again in another state J You are forever confused because you can do almost anything you want, the opportunity cost does not mean anything to you again

9. Dreams and night mares

But don’t get it twisted people; getting wealthy the right way and time is priceless, don’t trade it for anything! Yes, yes I know and have said money is not everything, but somehow it feels better crying in a private jet than on a bicycle :O

By Dave Ozoalor
http://www.Braintem.com

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A sagging or drooping bréast is a natural, inevitable process that most women experience at some points in their lives. Women tend to be bothered by this life’s normal process, because they feel it makes them unattractive.

Drooping bréast are said to occur with age, but a bréast can actually start sagging at any age simply because they do not have muscles in them…

While the causes of sagging are not known, many schools of thought attribute the cause of this phenomenon to bréastfeeding. But many researches and studies have shown that this is a complete myth.

Outcomes of studies and researches have found that expansion and contraction of milk glands during pregnancy and not bréastfeeding is responsible.In some cases, it even happens without pregnancy.

Sagging can happen sooner than expected, except those with very small bréasts. It is not uncommon to see teens with drooping bréasts. Another reason bréasts are thought to sag is excessive weight. Being overweight puts extra tissues on the bréasts, which make them heavier and therefore sag.

Bréast sagging cannot be totally prevented. Even with bréast lift surgery, the results are not permanent, because the skin and the ligaments will eventually stretch.

However, there are a few things you can do:

Massage Your Bréasts

This may sound strange, as most people are familiar with body massage and not bréast massage. But the best and easiest way to reduce the potential problems of sagging and fibro cystic lumps is to self massage your bréasts at least three to five times in a week. This works in two ways. One, it releases stagnated fluids in the bréast. Secondly, it helps in reshaping and lifting the bréasts. For optimum results, use natural, organic bréast massage oils made just for bréasts.Use Correct Brá

Correct choice of brá can help reduce incidence of bréast sagging. While you are getting dressed, make sure your straps are adjusted correctly. For those that are busty, choose brás that are specially designed for large bréasts. For women who do sports that involve a lot of movement, such as running or football, it is important to wear supportive sports brá.
When bréasts bounce a lot during sports, it can stretch and harm the ligaments inside the bréasts. Avoid going brá-less, because going without a brá for too long will further stretch the bréast tissues. Brás should also be worn correctly by ensuring that the middle of the brá is centred within your body.

Maintain A Steady Weight
Adding and shedding weight causes changes in the size of bréasts. Excessive weight causes the bréasts to enlarge, which stretches the skin. When you shed weight, the bréast skin becomes stretched, making the bréast appear empty with a saggy look.
Try to maintain a stable weight by exercising and eating a balanced diet. Eating whole grains with plenty of vegetables and avoiding junk foods also helps to maintain a steady weight. One hour of walk or half an hour of aerobics everyday helps to keep the metabolism up and the weight steady.

Stop Smoking (if you do)
The side effects of smoking are numerous, and bréast sagging is one of them. When a person smokes, the carcinogens present in the smoke enter the body and cause elastin to break down in the body. Elastin fibres are responsible for skin suppleness; meaning the absence of these fibres causes the skin to sag. These fibres are found in bréast tissues, and over time, smoking can lead to breakdown of tissues that result in sagging bréasts.

Mind Your Exercise
When it comes to exercise, it may be both good and bad for the bréasts. The right method can keep the bréasts firm by providing better blood supply. While there are no muscles in the bréast itself, it is possible to build up the underlying pectorals for a lifting effect. But exercises like running may harm. While running without proper support, the bréasts bounce in a figure of eight. This causes wear and tear on the supporting ligaments.
In a research, it was found that bréasts move an average of 10cms up and down, side-to-side and forwards and backwards while running. The larger the size, the greater the force on the bréasts and the more they need to be restrained to avoid harm to the ligaments and connective tissue. This is why it is very important to wear a sports brá whenever you exercise.

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You might think you have sexy down to a science. But do know what real men actually want in a lover? Read on to find out.

Enthusiasm
When it comes to sex, you can get an “A” for effort. Guys want to be with someone who’s actually into sex and not doing it as a favor or just going through the motions.
“There is nothing more seductive than an enthusiastic lover,” says Lou Paget, certified sex educator and author of The Big O: Orgasms: How to Have Them, Give Them, and Keep Them Coming. “That beats out the perfect body or the perfect face anytime. A man wants feedback that a woman is into doing things with him!”

New Tricks
Men want a lover who is willing to try new things from time to time. That doesn’t mean you have to go all 50 Shades of Grey. Just be open to ideas.
“sexual desire is like an appetite,” says Paget. “We all want to try different flavors — otherwise we’d get bored eating at the same place all the time. Men want someone who is willing to explore unique feelings and new sensations.”
Worried that whatever you do is suddenly going to become part of your nightly repertoire? Don’t think of it as a can of worms. Most likely the occasional change-up is all he needs.

Praise
We normally think of women as the ones who need reassurance about their appearance, but men get insecure, too. A lover who will find something to compliment and worship about her partner will never lack affection from him.
“Every man wants to know they have that special something that turns a woman on,” says Paget. “It could be something that turns her head or something like his intelligence or sense of humor that she finds incredibly sexy.”

Bossiness
It’s not a cliché, ladies. A man wants a woman who will tell him what to do — at least in the bedroom. Most guys will be thankful for a little instruction, especially if it means they’ll succeed at pleasuring you.
“A woman who can guide you with sounds or one word responses is preferred as it takes away the guess work,” says Paget. “Just remember to avoid acting like a sexual traffic cop!”

Confidence
Men want someone who will leave the lights on and let him get a good look at her. Stop worrying about covering up any squishy parts.
“Indirect lighting is Hollywood’s best friend and it can be yours as well,” says Paget. “Need I repeat that men are visual creatures and they want to see their partner? It’s a big part of their turn-on factor.”
Confidence is sexier than anything!

Love on the Brain
A woman who keeps sex in the forefront of her thoughts knows how to inject it into life outside the bedroom — and that’s sexy. Try sexting him or be extra naughty and playful in public.
“Do it in a discreet way,” say Paget. “Let your partner know that you’re thinking about sex throughout the day. Remember, your brain is your sexual power source.”

It’s hard to meet people these days. Everyone is so busy. If you’re single and looking, how are you supposed to find someone that interests you? Well believe it or not, it’s not nearly as hard as some make it sound.

This article is for single women who are looking to find a man and haven’t found success through other venues, e.g. online dating services. Use these ten simple tips and you will find a man that not only interests you, but finds you interesting as well.

1 – Figure out what you are really looking for. This is probably the most important thing you can do to find a man. Sometimes people fool themselves into thinking they want something different from what they truly desire. For example, you might think you need someone who is good-looking, smart, funny and sensitive. But do you? Isn’t this what everyone thinks they want? How do you know this is what you want? Have you ever been with someone that was all these things? The point here, is you need to be more realistic. Here’s how. Look at your past. Think of all the guys you’ve known. Which ones did you like? I don’t mean in the relationship sort of way, I mean in the “like” sort of way. Think about your relatives, your friends and their families. Think about everyone you can remember in your whole life. Who stands out? Who made you feel comfortable, or safe? These are the subtle clues to your true wants and desires. It’s possible you’re actually more comfortable with blue collar guys with big guts and a beer in hand.

2 – Get out of the house and away from where you work. It’s very easy to get in a rut. We get up, get ready, go to work, come home, clean up, eat and then crash. You’re not going to meet anybody with that routine. Not only does it keep you in the same places you always are, which obviously isn’t working or you wouldn’t be reading this, but it runs you down, makes you tired and less interested in looking or being looked at by others. You need to break out of your habits. Get out. Go to a movie. Go to dinner. Go to a book store or on a hike. Go jogging or biking or to a museum. Go on vacation. Book a cruise. Walk to the park near where you live. Anything and everything to get you up and out of the house. Go to places you’ve never been. You’ll never know who or what is out there unless you get out there and have a look for yourself. Also, don’t travel in groups. When you go out, do it alone. Women in groups are like a hard shell to crack. It makes it difficult to see out and for others to see in. When you’re alone, you see the world and the world sees you. When you’re alone, you’re much more inviting.

3 – Be kind. It won’t kill you. Give the guys a break now and then. Say please and thank you. Say hello and goodbye. Wave. Give compliments freely and accept them with grace. Be friendly and inviting even if you have no interest in the person you are talking to. It won’t matter, because being kind is something that will do you well regardless of the circumstances. People respond to kindness. It will cause them to like you. That’s a very good thing when you’re tying to attract a man.

4 – Talk to people. Talk to your neighbors when you see them. To your post man. Talk to the lady behind the counter at the grocery store or the guy that jogs past your house every morning. Talk to people and they will talk to you. This is how you get connected to the rest of the world. By talking to people you get to know them By getting to know them, you eventually get to know other people they know. It all keeps growing. Talk to people and your world will expand exponentially. Who knows, maybe eventually you’ll wind up talking to someone who interests you.

5 – Allow yourself to be caught. The human race hasn’t evolved as much as we’d like to think. We’re not a lot different from those prehistoric knuckle-draggers of yesteryear. For literally millions of years the male half of our species has been honing his skills at hunting, so it should be no surprise to learn that when it comes to finding a woman, a man resorts to what he knows, and that is hunting. Whether it’s hunting down the car he desires, the perfect sixty inch HDTV or the woman of his dreams, the technique is the same. Go. See. Get. Back in the day, it was simple. If it was a woman he wanted, it was a simple matter of clobbering her over the head and dragging her back to his cave. Nowadays though, things are much more complicated and this has caused a great deal of confusion for your erstwhile pursuer. Why not make it easier for him? If he looks at you, look back. If he approaches you, turn to greet him. If he seems to be mulling over how to get you, smile at him. It’s not that hard. None of these things mean you have to go home with him. None mean you have to go out with him. All it means is, you are open to the possibility of considering this one single male as suitable for your purposes. Nothing more.

6 – Open your mind and your eyes. The world is half men. Granted a lot of them are already taken, but there are still a lot of them that aren’t. Some might be hiding. It’s been noted of late that a lot of guys, for instance, in the technical fields, have a little trouble with social skills and thus don’t go out much. How might you meet them? Well, most of them at one time or another have to go to a grocery store. Or a bank. Or the mall to pick up some new underwear. That’s how you find them. Go to those places and open your eyes. You might not like what you see, but that doesn’t mean these guys can’t be something you’d like. It means they are not out there to impress you. They’re dressed as they would at home. They’re just out and then home. Is it so impossible to imagine bumping into somebody while simultaneously keeping your eyes open to the possibility that they might be someone you should consider regardless of their attire or demeanor?

7 – Learn new things. Sign up for cooking lessons. Or Spanish lessons. Go to the library to do research on the mating habits of the bobcat. Or the park to figure out what kinds of flowers are growing. Dig up your family history. Go to a national park to see what all the fuss is about. Or take up archery. Or get online and learn about football or baseball and then go to a game. Learn something new, and keep doing that. An inquisitive mind is an attractive thing. And a well read mind is great for conversation. To find someone interesting, you have to have interests. To have someone be interested in you, there has to be more to you than what you do for a living. Never stop learning.

8 – Get more hobbies. Along with learning, you need to engage in something besides work and homemaking. Hobbies keep you fresh and your eyes twinkling; which is something that really attracts the guys. Take up something that takes years to master. Or take up many things. The point is to find things you like to do, and do them. Whether it’s learning to play the guitar, wine making, or acting in community theater. It doesn’t matter what it is, just so long as it’s something more engaging than say knitting or working crossword puzzles. Your hobbies need to get you out of the house and with other people. They need to excite you and make you look forward to doing them again, so that you will. Over and over.

9 – Get happy. Smile. Loosen up. A smile is more attractive to a man than any outfit you might wear. Not only does smiling make you more attractive to look at, it tells others that you are someone who smiles, which means you are someone who is happy. And guys like happy girls, no doubt about it.

10 – Be courageous. It’s hard to break out of old habits. And even harder to keep doing it when you get tired of doing it. It’s also tough to put yourself out there. Sometimes, really tough. But be strong. Be courageous. Do things you normally shy from out of modesty or timidity. Be gregarious. Be daring. Don’t take yourself so seriously. You’ll be surprised with what you can do and proud of yourself for what you accomplish and you’ll be more self confidant as a result. Self confidence attracts people. It makes them feel there’s more to you than meets the eye. It will make men want to impress you. Let them. It’s not that hard to get a man. Just follow the ten simple steps above and gradually, over time, you’ll notice that you are meeting more people, hopefully a lot of them male. Obviously, the more people you meet the greater the chances of meeting someone that interests you. The idea is to be more than passive or simply responsive. You need to be proactive. You need to take matters into your own hands, because really, when you get down to it, what is more important than finding someone to share with you all these new adventures you’ve found.

Many things run through a woman’s mind when you meet.

Your Approach

Her brain quickly vets your height and facial symmetry the moment you meet. Now convince her of your character. Approach confidently; don’t pretend to bump into her. Men tend to talk to each other at angles to avoid confrontation. But women face each other head-on and maintain eye contact.

Your Introduction

A good handshake isn’t a shortcut to her bed, but a bad one can doom you. Hands are loaded with tactile nerves, and people with weak, clammy handshakes were perceived as shy and neurotic in a recent study. So hold your drink in your left hand and give her a firm but not bone-crushing grasp. Pay attention to her grip as well: The same study showed that women who give firmer handshakes tend to be more adventurous.

Your Voice

The most attractive women prefer deep-voiced men. It suggests high testosterone levels, a sign of strength and reproductive prowess. Push out air with your diaphragm, not your throat. This lengthens the column of air moving past your vocal cords.

Your Icebreaker

Say something that will draw out details about her. “Your friends seem nice—how did you get to know them?” is a compliment and a window into her past. Forming a bond will release dopamine, a mood booster in her brain. Show off your interest with verbal nods of agreement (“uh-huh,” “go on”).

Your Conversation

We all know to ask lots of questions and to avoid flat-out boasting. But don’t sell yourself short. Women listen very carefully for signs of status and wealth. Keep any references to financial or personal success oblique, though—let her curiosity draw out the details. Another crucial conversation tip: Talk at the same pace she does and she’ll consider you intelligent, kind, confident, and ambitious.

Your Body Language

Attraction causes couples to mirror each other’s body language. But don’t be overeager to connect. Stay relaxed and let her set the tone. Fidgeting conveys nervousness and triggers the empathetic release of stress chemicals in her brain. Once she brushes your shoulder or thigh, reciprocate within a minute or two. Or touch her inner forearm, a nerve-rich zone that will create sparks.

Your Deal Closer

If you’ve made the right sort of first impression, she might be wondering how you are in bed. Consciously or not, she’s looking for signs that you’re patient and sensitive to the ways her body finds pleasure. Show refined tastes and sensitivity the rest of the time and she’ll suspect you have others worth exploring—back at her place.

1. Addictive
Smart mobile phone devices are so easy to make the owner feel addicted. Studies at Rutgers University in 2006 concluded, Blackberry and similar devices to trigger the increase in internet usage is quite significant, but bad for mental health.

2. Disrupt sleep
With 24-hour internet service, the Blackberry device will vibrate or ring any time, when there is incoming e-mail and short messages. And all the time too, Blackberry users will be playing it, including when it was already in bed.

Quite often too, so users sensitive with Blackberry vibrating, so easily roused from sleep to open an incoming message.

Habit brings Blackberry in bed, finally make a quality sleeping. Subsequent impact, of attacking health. It’s no secret that the poor quality of sleep has a negative impact on physical and mental health.

A study revealed, Blackberry users who have a habit of playing it before bed susceptible insomnia, headaches, and difficulty concentrating. Research conducted Uppsala University in Sweden, adding that mobile phone radiation can interfere with sleep activity.

3. Trigger anxiety
Having such a Blackberry smart mobile phone is fun for some people. With the Blackberry, the activity of exchanging emails, chatting, surfing the internet to be conducted simultaneously, anytime and anywhere. Many others rely on business.

Studies carried out MIT’s Sloan School of Management in 2007 reveal, the use of Blackberry establish a culture of stress in the workplace. 24-hour internet facility is reliable smart cell phones that disrupt workers’ leisure time. Duties and matters pertaining to employment can be present at any time, including when on vacation.

4. Debilitating brain
Behind the convenience provided, Blackberry users at risk of weakening the power of concentration. Character who can make the user perform a number of things at the same time (multitasking) tend to make a person difficult to absorb the information because its focus is easy to switch from one thing to another.

“As a multitasker, their brains are flooded with too much information, as a result they no longer selective for sorting out important information quickly,” said Dr. David W. Goodman, director of Psychological Disorder Center in Maryland, Baltimore.

For that, he advised users not to activate the Blackberry’s internet network for 24 hours. “Create a schedule to open the email, for example once every hour, or two hours,” Goodman said. “Do not make yourself a slave of Blackberry vibrating or ringing.”

❤ ❥ 1) Learn About What Speaks Love To Her: Everybody communicates love in different ways. You probably tend to try to show her love in your language. In order for her to feel loved you need to find out what her language is and show her love in that language. Even if you once went through this and learned her love language, you might be surprised if you go through it again. It has been my experience that people’s love language will change over time.

❤ ❥ 2) Act Enthusiastic Even When You Aren’t: I’m not telling you to lie. Just show interest in the things she shares with you even if it is something that you don’t care about. If she tells you one of her friends who you’ve never met is pregnant it’s time to start asking questions and letting her share the story with you. It might not be important to you but she obviously cares about it if she brought it up.

❤ ❥ 3) Engage With Her: If she want’s to talk to you it’s probably a good idea to disengage with whatever you are doing and engage with her instead. Turn off the TV, video game, computer or whatever else you may be paying attention to and face her straight on. To men, face to face communication usually means conflict. To your wife, it means intimacy. Look her in the eyes and listen to her.

❤ ❥ 4) Use Active Listening Skills: You may have learned about this at work. It works in marriage, too. Make good use of nonverbal communication. Ask her probing questions or to clarify something if you don’t understand what’s coming across. Even if you think you understand what she’s saying it might be a good idea to repeat what she’s saying in your own words every once in a while. You can do this by saying something along these lines: “So you are saying that you feel…”

❤ ❥ 5) Forget About The Problem, Focus On The Emotions: You’ve probably heard a million times that your wife doesn’t want you to solve her problems. That’s because it’s true a large portion of the time. Instead of trying to get her to tell you what the problem is so you can help her solve it just talk to her an empathize with her. This is her way of figuring out what the problem is.

❤ ❥ 6) Compliment Her: Your wife needs to feel beautiful and desirable. Find ways every day to compliment her. Text her from work to tell her you can’t wait to get home. Notice the things she does every single day that tend to get overlooked. Praise her on her appearance or how well she handles the kids. Don’t be generic. Find specific things to compliment her on.

❤ ❥ 7) Actions Speak Louder Than Words: Sometimes good communication just means serving her with actions. Give her a break from the kids. Do a chore she normally does. Take out the trash before she has to start in on you to do it. Ask her what you can do to help her. Marriage isn’t about compromise; it’s about giving 100% even when you feel that she isn’t.

Okay, we know sex is all about having pleasure. But it turns out it’s good for your health, too.

Meagan Morris of the Cosmopolitan asked Dr Jennifer Landa, chief medical officer of BodyLogicMD and author of The Sex Drive Solution for Women to give insight into the health benefits of sex, and here they are.

It boosts your brain
Sex increases your body’s dopamine levels—the hormone that improves your memory and motivation. So basically having an orgasm is the gift that keeps on giving.

It burns calories
Don’t feel like hitting the gym? Grab your guy and head to the bedroom. A 30-minute romp in the sheets can burn upwards of 150 calories. That’s like running a mile on the treadmill!

It de-stresses you
We’re all stressed to the max—and all that worry releases the stress hormone cortisol. The problem with cortisol? Having too much of it in your bloodstream can lead to everything from high blood sugar to weight gain. When you get your freak on, it helps you relax, lowering the stress levels in your body.

It keeps you healthy
Regular sex with your guy can actually prevent cold, thanks to the hormone prolactin. This hormone has an important role in strengthening your immune system by increasing the production of T and B lymphocytes (aka immune cells). We’ll take that over chicken soup any day.

It helps you sleep
When you have sex, the cuddle hormone oxytocin is released. That increases your bond with your guy, but it also helps you sleep.

It’s good for your heart
The hormone testosterone is usually associated with big-muscled dudes, but our bodies make it, too. Sex helps increase the release of the hormone, which in turn improves your energy level and strengthens vital body parts, like your muscles, bones and heart.

A study has revealed that men who do little exercise and spend much of their time watching television have lower spérm counts than more active men. The study, published in the British Journal of Sports Medicine, shows falling sperm quality is linked to lower levels of physical activity.

The study found that young men who watch television for just three hours a day have half the spérm count of men rarely found in front of the box. Yet 15 hours or more of exercise a week boosts sémen quality, according to the results in nearly 200 college students.

Also, experts say this could be due to lack of exercise, or to overheating of the tésticles caused by prolonged sitting. And some experts say men wanting to father children need to be selective about the sport they do, as well as avoid wearing tight underpants as these may harm spérm.

However, in the latest study from the Harvard School of Public Health (HSPH), healthy young men who watched more than 20 hours of television each week had a 44 per cent lower spérm count than those who almost did not watch. Men who exercised for 15 or more hours weekly at a moderate to vigorous rate had a 73 per cent higher spérm count than those who exercised less than five hours per week. Mild exercise did not affect sperm quality.

Many men are never taught how to talk to women. Because of this many guys go through life without the ability to attract a woman.

Here are 9 tips to help make sure you aren’t making mistakes with the women you’d like to attract:
1. You should talk about “emotional” topics like childhood memories, future ambitions, or her passions. These conversation topics will open up her emotional floodgates.
2. Women want a guy who is not afraid to lead her. While talking to a woman take control of the conversation. Never wait for her to dictate what you’ll be talking about.
3. Pay attention to the non-verbal cues a woman is giving you. If you’re standing too close to her, accidentally spitting when you talk, or making her feel uncomfortable in any way… she will send you hints. Pay attention to them.
4. Remember this motto “Fun not Funny.” Women are attracted to men who allow them to have fun. Don’t concentrate on having the funniest jokes. Concentrate on showing them the most excitement and enjoyment.
5. Tease women. One of the easiest ways to take a conversation to a fun and flirty level is to begin to tease women. Think back to your time on the playground. In the world of dating… what worked on the playground is effective all over again.
6. Get intimate with her. Women are turned on by men who are not afraid to take a conversation to a personal, intimate level.
7. Use things like “cold reads” to turn women on. Women love to hear opinions about themselves. Tell her what you observe about her.
8. Avoid complimenting a woman too much. Women are turned off by men who come across as “needy.” If you are complimenting a woman too much she will think you’re trying to impress her. Which will have the opposite effect.
9. If you want to know how to talk to women in a way that doesn’t bore them… Avoid asking too many “interview” style questions. Instead state your opinion about things.

Though most Nigerian girls would never admit doing anything weird.

1. Making noodles in a small pot and eating directly from the same pot to avoid washing an extra dish..

2. Spilling something on the counter and brushing it onto the floor.

3. Eating straight out of the fridge or in bed with a laptop ( i do this one well) hehehe!

4. Drinking straight from the bottle. Water straight from the can. Milk from the can

5. Wearing the same underwear multiple times.

6. Washing hand after using the bathroom without using actual soap.

7. Pressing the trash down further to fit more garbage in,instead of taking it out.

8. Taking a longer time to wash period blood stained sheets.

9. Cupping bare breasts or vagina while watching t.v.

10. Using a towel for a really long time without washing it.

11. Boogers(mucus) can be wiped on walls,underbeds, leaving clumps of hair in the hairbrush

1. It can be hard to talk about love in scientific terms because people have strong pre-existing ideas about it.

The vision of love that emerges from the latest science requires a radical shift. I learned that I need to ask people to step back from their current views of love long enough to consider it from a different perspective: their body’s perspective. Love is not romance. It’s not s*xual desire. It’s not even that special bond you feel with family or significant others.

And perhaps most challenging of all, love is neither lasting nor unconditional. The radical shift we need to make is this: Love, as your body experiences it, is a micro-moment of connection shared with another.

2. Love is not exclusive.

We tend to think of love in the same breath as loved ones. When you take these to be only your innermost circle of family and friends, you inadvertently and severely constrain your opportunities for health, growth and well-being.

In reality, you can experience micro-moments of connection with anyone — whether your soul mate or a stranger. So long as you feel safe and can forge the right kind of connection, the conditions for experiencing the emotion of love are in place.

3. Love doesn’t belong to one person.

We tend to think of emotions as private events, confined to one person’s mind and skin. Upgrading our view of love defies this logic. Evidence suggests that when you really “click” with someone else, a discernible yet momentary synchrony emerges between the two of you, as your gestures and biochemistries, even your respective neural firings, come to mirror one another in a pattern I call positivity resonance. Love is a biological wave of good feeling and mutual care that rolls through two or more brains and bodies at once.

4. Making eye contact is a key gateway for love.

Your body has the built-in ability to “catch” the emotions of those around you, making your prospects for love — defined as micro-moments of positivity resonance — nearly limitless. As hopeful as this sounds, I also learned that you can thwart this natural ability if you don’t make eye contact with the other person. Meeting eyes is a key gatekeeper to neural synchrony.

5. Love fortifies the connection between your brain and your heart, making you healthier.

Decades of research show that people who are more socially connected live longer and healthier lives. Yet precisely how social ties affect health has remained one of the great mysteries of science.

My research team and I recently learned that when we randomly assign one group of people to learn ways to create more micro-moments of love in daily live, we lastingly improve the function of the vagus nerve, a key conduit that connects your brain to your heart. This discovery provides a new window into how micro-moments of love serve as nutrients for your health.

6. Your immune cells reflect your past experiences of love.

Too often, you get the message that your future prospects hinge on your DNA. Yet the ways that your genes get expressed at the cellular level depends mightily on many factors, including whether you consider yourself to be socially connected or chronically lonely.

My team is now investigating the cellular effects of love, testing whether people who build more micro-moments of love in daily life also build healthier immune cells.

7. Small emotional moments can have disproportionately large biological effects.

It can seem surprising that an experience that lasts just a micro-moment can have any lasting effect on your health and longevity. Yet I learned that there’s an important feedback loop at work here, an upward spiral between your social and your physical well-being.

That is, your micro-moments of love not only make you healthier, but being healthier builds your capacity for love. Little by little, love begets love by improving your health. And health begets health by improving your capacity for love.

8. Don’t take a loving marriage for granted.

Writing this book has profoundly changed my personal view of love. I used to uphold love as that constant, steady force that all but defines my marriage. While that constant, steady force still exists, I now see our bond as a product of the many micro-moments of positivity resonance that my husband and I have shared over the years. This shakes me out of any complacency that tempts me to take our love for granted. Love is something we should re-cultivate every single day.

9. Love and compassion can be one and the same.

If we reimagine love as micro-moments of shared positivity, it can seem like love requires that you always feel happy. I learned that this isn’t true. You can experience a micro-moment of love even as you or the person with whom you connect suffers.

Love doesn’t require that you ignore or suppress negativity. It simply requires that some element of kindness, empathy or appreciation be added to the mix. Compassion is the form love takes when suffering occurs.

10. Simply upgrading your view of love changes your capacity for it.

The latest science offers new lenses through which to see your every interaction. The people I interviewed for the book shared incredibly moving stories about how they used micro-moments of connection to make dramatic turnarounds in their personal and work lives.

One of the most hopeful things I learned is that when people take just a minute or so each day to think about whether they felt connected and attuned to others, they initiate a cascade of benefits. And this is something you could start doing today, having learned even just this much more about how love works.

When attempting to woo a woman, every man must remember that the slightest comment can make a big difference — it could either flatter her to no ends, or offend her in ways that you didn’t think was possible.

Here are the top 10 ways to impress a woman:

1. Look her in the eye: Remember, if she catches you staring at her chest when she’s telling you how much her mom means to her, you’ll look like a creep.

2. Be well groomed: Women want their men to be well groomed. They want them to look and smell good all the time. That doesn’t mean you necessarily have to be clean-shaven, but any facial hair you do have should be well maintained, reports Fox News.

3. Help her with her coat: Women love old-school displays of chivalry. Helping her put on her coat is a great example. It’s a kind, courteous act that’s not so common anymore. It’s also a good way to increase her comfort level with you as it allows you to get close to her without getting too close.

4. Socialize with her friends: Women are attracted to likable, social, charming men, the kind of guys their friends and families will love. So, engage in conversation with her friends even as you’re working your magic on her. Impress them and you’ll impress her. Just make sure it’s clear that she’s the one you’re interested in.

5. Ignore your phone: Nothing says, “You’re not that important…. ” like taking a call from someone else or checking a text in the middle of a conversation.

The culture of texting has gotten way out of hand. Too many men think it’s perfectly acceptable to take a phone call or fire off an e-mail while you’re on a date or in the middle of a conversation.

When you’re talking to a woman, let her see you silence your phone or turn it off completely — show her she has your undivided attention.

6. Ask her questions: Just about every woman likes to talk about herself. It’s a subject on which she has a lot of expertise, after all.

Asking her questions about her past and her favorite things will allow her to open up and feel comfortable, while simultaneously showing her that you’re interested in more than just her looks.

7. Open doors: Opening the door for a woman is a classic gentlemanly gesture. The otherwise admirable push for gender equality has largely eliminated acts of chivalry like this one.

8. Compliment the way she looks: Give this a shot: Compliment the way she looks in her outfit. Say something like, “You look great in that dress.” It’s a great way of telling her she looks hot without rerunning the same old compliment and it also communicates that you’re attracted to her in a way that, “Cool jacket!” does not.

9. Ask for advice: It shows her that you value other people’s opinions — in particular, her opinion. Be careful not to come off as clueless here, though; you don’t want to act like you know nothing.

For example, does she think you should move into a townhouse or a loft? This kind of question allows her to easily express an opinion, and hopefully sparks a more extensive conversation.

10. Compliment her positivity: Telling a woman she gives off a “happy” vibe will make her feel good.

It also allows you to then ask her about the things in her life that make her so happy, which will make her feel even better, positive feelings that she’ll ultimately associate with talking to you.

Quick Fixes to Make Your Butt Look Bigger
1
Cinch up your waist. You can try something like the “booty wow” it lifts instantly without padding. Emphasizing a small waist will make your bottom look bigger by proportion. Whether your tummy is tiny or not, try these tips to trick the eye:

Wear a belt over your waist. Find a medium to large width belt, and tie it around the tiniest part of your waist, over whatever shirt your’e wearing. (This looks best over button-down shirts, sweaters, or loose blouses.) For extra emphasis, put a dark-colored belt over a light shirt.
Try a girdle. If you have a little more girth than you’d like around your middle, try a girdle. It should push the excess from your tummy down around your hips and butt. Girdles can be found at most department or lingerie stores.
Don’t wear horizontal stripes or patterns around your waist. Busy fabrics or colors will emphasize your tummy and make it look bigger. Instead, stick to dark, solid colors on top.
2
Pick the right pants. The right pair of jeans can seemingly transform your butt, making it appear round and perky. Consider the following next time you buy a pair of jeans:

Keep the fit tight. Baggy pants will “drown” your curves, making them impossible to see underneath too much fabric. Skinny jeans or jeggings are ideal for showing off your butt. If you’re not quite comfortable with that, try bootcut or regular jeans with a fitted rear.
Look at pocket placement. Small, high back pockets will make your butt appear larger. Additionally, pockets with embellishments such as sequins, stitching, or colored thread can add more interest and “direct traffic” (or draw the eye) to your rear. Avoid jeans with big pockets or no pockets at all.
Try high-waisted jeans — the top of the pants should fit around the slimmest part of your waist, making it look small and your butt appear bigger.
Wearing low-rise jeans (that hit at the widest part of your hips) with a fitted shirt can also give the illusion of a bigger rear.
Avoid dark wash jeans, which will make your legs and rear look smaller (especially if you’re wearing a light-colored top). Instead, try white, pastel, or light blue jeans.
3
Wear high heels. Heels change the natural curve of your spine, causing both your butt and your boobs to protrude more.

For an extra-lifted rear end, ditch the kitten heels and go for stilettos.
If you’re unsure that this works, get in front of a mirror and stand up on your tiptoes (it will help). Take a few steps, and you’ll notice how the movements of your legs and rear are a little more exaggerated. Your legs should also look more toned, and your butt should appear to be an inch or two higher.
This advice applies to men as well. The first high heels were designed for horse riders, to help the shoes grip stirrups. To this day, cowboy boots sport heels (and many cowboy’s sport tighter jeans — coincidence?).
Keep in mind that wearing high heels all the time can permanently damage your feet and knees.
4
Change your posture and your walk. How you carry yourself can highlight or obscure different parts of your body. While wearing heels can alter your posture, you can also do it without them. Here’s how:

Throw your shoulders back and arch your lower back. This will not only make your butt more prominent, but it’ll also slim your torso a bit and make your chest look bigger.
Imitate the way runway models walk. Imagine there’s a straight line running on the ground ahead of you, and it’s located exactly beneath your belly button, in the center between your two feet. When you take a step, move your foot toward the center of your body, putting it down on this imaginary line. Then put your other foot down on that line, directly in front of your first foot. Keep walking this way, one foot in front of the other and clench your glutes.

1. Guys love to marry an Independent and Matured lady… So instead of sitting there and waiting to be bluffed by a guy, focus on getting a
career that would take you out of the house wife category…

2. Never let the sweet talks of guys deceive you, most times they just want to go between your legs and run off thereafter.

3. Remove the mentality from your mind that guys will keep springing up to approach you. The older you get by the day, the less toasters you
will have.

4. Playing’too’har d to get is the worst thing you should ever start, remember, Nothing lasts forever. If you still doubt, check out the number of matured single ladies looking up to GOD FOR A MIRACLE.

5. Never extort things from a guy you don’t love, guys always have ways of paying a girl back, either through their FRIENDS or total ‘PAID’STRANGERS ….BE -CAREFUL.

6. Never be deceived you can trap a guy through sex. A man will also return to his wife who sex starves him for years once he loves and trust her. You can never win a man over with your body.

7. If all you take to the relationship is the mind set to EXTRACT MONEY from him, don’t complain if all he ask from you is your body. He has seen you have nothing else to offer…

8. Don’t be fooled when Guys tell you they have never met a prettier girl, they will say that same thing to an 80year old woman they want to get intimate with.

9. A guy always taking you to the SILVER-BIRD, FAST FOOD, MALL AND EVENTS AT CONFERENCE CENTER / NATIONAL THEATRE is no sign that he loves you, if he doesn’t care to ask and PLAN YOUR FUTURE TOGETHER then you are just his ‘SOCIAL MATE’and nothing else….

10. If the only time he invites you over is when he needs to cook, clean the house and do his laundry,then just know you are his “executive house help”.

11. If he avoids meeting your family and close friends then it is an obvious sign he is just playing games with you.

12. If the only places he doesn’t frown when you enter are his bedroom and kitchen then know you aren’t welcome (only being used). Have you noticed that most of the ladies that end up being EMOTIONALLY ABUSED are the ones at the receiving end…Always with open arms, requesting for something and ready to receive… The more you widen your arms, the
more he widens your legs… A grown up guy who gives the excuse about his parents being wild when he brings female visitors to the house is a sign that HE HAS A SERIOUS GIRL
AND HAS INTRODUCED HER TO HIS PARENTS ALREADY… ADVISE YOURSELF… FINALLY, I ALWAYS SAY THIS AND WILL REPEAT IT AGAIN… It’s betterto be sitting in a taxi smiling happily than to be in your husband’s fresh air conditioned BMWx6 with bruised eyes wearing a fresh Gucci shades alongside a Burberry scarf….
JUST REMEMBER, THAT DATING A RICH MAN DOESN’T GUARANTEE HAPPINESS IN MARRIAGE… MONEY IS NOT EVERYTHING…..  -MAKING RIGHT CHOICES IN LIFE IS WHAT MATTERS MOST…

Have you ever found yourself in a relationship situation where you’re constantly calling the girl, taking her out and being devoted, sweet and kind to her only to get games, drama and inconsistency in return? While most women want to be with a man who treats them right and is ready for commitment, there are selfish and opportunistic women who intentionally take advantage of men and relationships. Here are 5 tips on how to tell if she’s just using you.

1. She doesn’t keep dates with you

She repeatedly tells you how interested she is and how much she wants to see you; however, when dates are scheduled, she cancels at the last minute or something always seems to come up to prevent the two of you from meeting unless she needs something from you.There’s a chance this woman doesn’t enjoy your company at all and is in fact using you.

2. She doesn’t return your phone calls
If the girl seldom returns your calls in a timely manner, always has a busy schedule and only calls when she wants something from you or needs a favor, it should be clear that she is using you and that you are not a priority.

3. She only hangs out with you as a last resort
A woman that desires you will create time in her busy schedule to be with you. But If she only makes plans with you at the last minute, as if nothing better came her way or when plans with her friends fizzle, you’re pretty much an after thought and her last resort when she’s bored.

4. She’s only interested in what you can give her
A normal couple alternates in buying each other dinner and gifts; however, there are many situations where women only see men as a source of movie tickets and food or, even worse–a rent check or a down payment for a car.

Ask yourself the following questions: Are you constantly buying things for her and receiving nothing in return? Do you always pay when you go out and find yourself spending more money on her than you counted on? Does she borrow money from you but never pays you back? Does she write you off whenever you’re not spending money on her? If you answered yes to these, the lady in your life is a gold digger.

5. Her future plans don’t include you
If she only has short term plans about your relationship, gives no answer when you ask about what your relationship will be like three years from now and always avoids talking about meeting her friends or parents, she is more than likely using you to fill a temporary void in her life until someone better comes along.

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1. The Timing of Love. To start off with, let’s get rid of that common misconception that men don’t want to fall in love; we do. The problem is that we just don’t always want to do it at the same time women do. Age and maturity are key factors here, so if a man doesn’t seem like he’s out for more than just a good time, cut your losses and realize that he’s just not ready for love yet. That doesn’t mean forget about him completely, just keep him on the back burner and text every once in a while to say hi. You never know when he might be ready to come around. In the meantime, get out there and meet new people constantly. 
2. Communication. Which brings me to the next point: texting. It’s a great way to keep in touch nowadays and is far from overbearing. It gives ladies a slight advantage because you can just pique a guy’s interest every now and then without seeming like you’re coming on too strong. A random text saying something like, “Was just thinking about that time we…” or “Hey, do you remember what a laugh we had when…” Then, you can take it from there, at your own pace. 
3. Fun With Food. Now we turn from modern advice to old school: What they said about a man’s stomach being the way to his heart is true. But this doesn’t mean you always have to cook; there are plenty of interesting wine tastings or even beer tastings that might be fun for you to invite that guy you have your eye on to. The key here is being seen as the “cool, fun” woman who comes up with unique things to do out of the blue, but isn’t expecting something afterwards. Believe me, creating a little air of intrigue about yourself isn’t a bad thing. Leaving the guy wondering, “Why did she invite me to this and then not call me for a few weeks and then all of a sudden invite me to another thing” is good. It shows that you have your own life, something most men find attractive. 
4. Be Unique. Which ties in nicely with my next tip: be interested, but also interesting. It’s great to listen to someone talk about their dreams, desires, likes and hobbies, but if you have none of your own that you can share with a man, there’s not much substance to make them fall for you. Guys don’t mind being intrigued with something new, so introduce them to some things you like to do that you think they may like as well; just be sure to keep our fragile egos in mind so you don’t make us look like newbies while doing it! 
5. Be Yourself. Finally, as always, be yourself! If a guy doesn’t like you for your quirky, goofiness now, he’s not going to like it 10 years from now. If learning how to make a man fall in love with you is your true and honest goal, putting on airs just won’t get the job done; not in the long run.

#1 He remembers what you say. A guy who’s in love with a girl always listens to her and remembers what she says, even if it’s something trivial because he takes her seriously.
#2 He’s chivalrous and treats you like a lady. A guy is chivalrous to a girl when he cares about what she thinks of his behavior. If your guy doesn’t care about you, he wouldn’t care what you think of his behavior.
#3 He takes care of your needs. If your man truly loves you, he’d always look for little ways to make your life better, be it about covering you with a blanket when you’re cold, charging your cell phone even when you don’t ask him, or serving you the better piece of chicken when you’re not looking.
#4 You’re always a part of his big plan in life. He speaks about his life and his dreams with you, and you always have a prominent place in all his future plans.
#5 He holds your hand instinctively when you’re in a crowd, or places his hand on your back while crossing the street. This is a reflex action that neither of you may realize. If a guy loves you, he’d definitely want to protect you and reassure you.
#6 He values your opinions a lot and doesn’t take any important decisions about his own life without hearing your opinions and having a discussion with you.
#7 He wraps his hands around you or stands closer to you when you’re talking to some other guys and having a good laugh. It’s his way of letting the world know that you’re the one he loves and every other guy should back away. 
#8 He uses the word “we” instead of saying “I” or “Me” while talking and doesn’t even realize it.
#9 He’s very protective of you. If you’re taking a trip by yourself or even if you’re just driving out with friends, does he like receiving your call after you get to your destination? If your man can relax only after knowing that you’re safe, no matter where you are, he definitely has a special spot for you in his heart.
#10 He’s very interested in your life. If your man loves you, he’d always be eager to know everything about your day, including the little details.
#11 The helping hand. He’s always ready to offer a helping hand every time you ask him *even if he’s busy and he does it while whining and grumbling at the same time*.
#12 After the fight. He makes up after a fight just as much as you make up with him. And at times, he even swallows his pride and apologizes first even if it’s not his fault in any manner.
#13 He keeps you updated. He keeps you informed about his life and what he’s up to even though he knows he has no obligation to do so.
#14 He respects you and treats you with a lot of respect. He doesn’t stare at other girls when you’re around, neither does he cut you in the middle of a conversation.
#15 You’re the last person he speaks to or texts at night. If he loves you, you’d be the first and last thing on his mind every time he wakes up or goes to sleep.
#16 He sacrifices his happiness to see you happy. It could be something as small as choosing a restaurant for dinner or giving you the fluffier pillow or something way bigger that can impact his life. 
#17 He makes a lot of effort to be liked by your friends and family. He cares about what your friends and family think of him and he also understands that their impression of him will affect your relationship with your friends and family.
#18 He can’t stay mad at you for any reason for more than a couple of hours. People in love can’t stay mad at each other for long, it hurts both lovers too much. So if he takes the effort to apologize or accept your apology, he really does care about you and your feelings.
#19 He talks a lot. If a guy loves you, you’d find that he opens up really easily to you and talks a lot about everything, be it his life, his plans, his work or even about how annoying his friends really are. 
#20 He loves spending time with you. He goes out of his way to be with you. And if he has to cancel a date for any genuine reason, he’d do everything it takes to make it up to you on the next date.
#21 He stands up for you, no matter what you’ve done and no matter where he is. A man who truly loves his woman will stand by her side even if she’s on the wrong. He may criticize you in private, but never ever in public. 
#22 Making a choice. If he has to choose between you and anything else in the world, he’d choose you in a flash without even thinking, because he doesn’t need to weigh any options there.
#23 He never forgets your special days, be it your birthday or anniversaries or a big day at work. And he goes out of his way to help you prepare for any big days or events in your life.
#24 He doesn’t get annoyed with you even if he’s busy and you tease him or fool around with him. 
#25 At a social gathering, he never gives any girl more attention than he gives you, even if he meets a celebrity.
Don’t jump to conclusions about your man’s love for you. After all, most men aren’t the biggest romantics. But they do have really big hearts that’s full of love for you and you alone.

First impressions matter. Love at first sight may be a myth, but those first few moments are vital when you’re out to impress. People can’t help but form an immediate opinion of you based on your appearance, your body language and the way you’re dressed, and this opinion helps to determine whether they hang around long enough to get to know you better.
Some first impressions matter more than others, particularly when you’re meeting men. One recent survey for a women’s magazine found that three-quarters of men notice a woman’s hair first, wheras only a handful of men mentioned clothes. That’s something to bear in mind next time you’re wondering whether to spend 50 quid on a haircut or a dress.
Read on to find out which five things men see first when they first see you, and how this can help you in the dating game.
1. Your hair
Hair takes the top spot for a number of reasons. First, it’s easy to spot. You may have a bottom to make Pippa Middleton weep with envy, but it’s unlikely to be the thing men notice first about you unless you’re holding a wedding dress train outside Westminster Abbey.
Men don’t just glance at a swooshy, shiny mane of hair and then move onto your other assets. They glance at it, and then keep on glancing. Long hair in good condition is extremely sexy, as is short hair with a sleek or fashionable cut. It’s a potent symbol of femininity that screams out to be touched. It also shows that you look after yourself and take pride in your appearance – qualities that many men rate very highly indeed. That said, you don’t want to look high-maintenance, so don’t overdo the products or extreme styling. Just keep your hair clean and conditioned, and invest in a good cut that suits your hair and your features.
Don’t feel pressured to cut your hair just because you’re getting older, or because Emma Watson cut hers. Only an exceptionally elfin face can carry off a drastic buzz cut. Most of us benefit from a glossy frame of hair, and the right haircut can work magic on balancing your facial features.
2. Your eyes
If your hair is your face’s frame, your eyes are its windows. Grown men can be hypnotised by a swoosh of beautiful hair followed by knockout eye contact. Eyes are so powerful because they are about direct communication, and eye contact enables you to make an instant connection with a stranger.
Psychologist Arthur Arun tested the power of eye contact by dividing pairs of strangers into two groups. One group of pairs engaged in intense conversation, while the other pairs stared silently into each other’s eyes for four minutes. Each time he did this test, the eye-contact couples reported feeling much more connected than the intimate-chat couple. One eye-contact couple even got married. So much for the power of conversation!
Make the most of your eyes by getting used to making and maintaining eye contact. It can be difficult if you’re the shy type, but its results can be extremely powerful. Also learn a few tricks of the make-up trade. Good make-up and well-shaped brows can make your eyes extraordinary, but too much can have the opposite effect.
3. Your shoes
Hair, eyes… shouldn’t smile come next? Not according to the men we spoke to. When asked what they noticed first, men were surprisingly keen to mention the importance of stylish shoes. Particularly, and predictably, high heels.
High heels will catch a man’s eye because they give you a sexy edge and improve your posture and the shape of your legs, but only if you can walk in them properly. Uncomfortable heels, like too much eye make-up, do more harm than good. There’s some reassurance for those of us who can’t or won’t wear heels: cool pumps, boots and on-trend trainers also go down well with men. Falling-apart old trainers or mis-shapen ugg boots, not so much. The key here is to wear stylish, quality shoes that co-ordinate with your outfit, and which you can walk in without wincing or lurching.
4. Your Smile
Smile at him, and that’s when he really sees your face. He won’t notice the slight crookedness of your teeth, or the chapped bit on your lip, or the spot that appeared this morning, or even if you’ve got a bit of food stuck in between your incisors – he’ll notice the sincerity and friendliness of your smile.
Meet his eye when you do it and he’ll find it impossible not to smile back – and that’s about the best first impression you can make.
5. Your body
Men notice a woman’s body. They can’t help it. That’s not to say that men judge you on your body shape as soon as you walk into the room, just that they can’t help but look at it. And chances are they’ll notice within seconds whether you’re comfortable with your body, so be sure to dress in a way that shows off your best assets, but leaves a little something to the imagination.
If you worry about the size of your tummy, thighs, arms and so on, don’t despair. Every woman has something about themselves that they’d like to change, but the good news is that most men won’t notice the bits that you do – they’re just happy at the prospect of seeing you naked. Embrace your femininity and go out with confidence, safe in the knowledge that your body will do at least some of the talking for you.
Culled: Yahoo personal.

Want to know if the man you’re dating is a closet gay? Use these 15 subtle and yet obvious signs on how to tell if a guy is gay to get your answers.

Are you dating a guy who seems to be leaning off the straight path?
 
Ever wondered if he’s gay?
 
Sometimes, it takes more than several years for a woman to know if the man she’s dating is gay.
 
And at other times, it can be an easy breeze.
 
But why do gay men date women in the first place?
 
Really, if a man knows he’s gay, wouldn’t it be better for him to just accept it and avoid dating women in the first place?
 
 
It really is extremely selfish and frustrating.
 
But instead of just blaming the guy you’re dating, you can put society to blame too.
 
As a society, we’re still not open enough to accept the fact that a gay guy can be just as perfect a man as any other guy.
 
And at the same time, many gay men don’t even know they’re gay!
 
How to tell if a guy is gay
 
Contrary to popular belief, it’s not easy to pick a homosexual man from a group of men. Anyone could be gay, and you could never know it.
 
But instead of relying on how flashy they dress or how they stretch the words in a conversation, look for other cues and you’ll be able to see the obvious signs that most people overlook all the time.
 
15 signs to find out if your guy is gay
 
Have you ever had a nagging suspicion about your man’s sexual orientation? Use these signs to know your man better, and chances are, those subtle moves of his would become a lot more obvious in no time.
 
#1 He isn’t interested in sex with you. Now this is not reason enough, but it’s only the start of many more signs. Sometimes, a man could be in a happy marriage for several years and enjoy a great sex life before he realizes that he’s gay and likes men. Has your man lost his passion for sex even if you try new ways to keep sex exciting?
 
Is he a wonderful and understanding partner who likes spending time with you, but avoids kissing passionately or breaks away from the kiss within a few seconds? If he’s not interested in other women, there’s a good chance that he likes another guy.
 
#2 He stares at men. You catch him staring at men when he thinks you’re not looking. This would be particularly more obvious on a beach when there are a lot of men in their bare minimum, or while clubbing when he keeps sticking his butt back to graze other men.
 
#3 He talks dirty. All of us love talking dirty or thinking dirty in bed. [Read: How to talk dirty in bed with your man]
 
But does your man have a few sexual fantasies that turn him on more than others? Does he like it when you talk about sexual scenarios where he’s sexually involved with other men? Experimentation may sound tempting and exciting, but if a gay fantasy is the only thing that turns him on a lot, you may have to ask him to tell you about his fascination for other men.
 
#4 He flirts with men. Girls may sweet talk each other. Guys don’t. They never ever do.  Guys don’t compliment other guys. In fact, they don’t even try to be nice to each other. They use straight words and say what they mean, even if it comes out wrong. Only a man who’s sexually interested with another man would try to flirt with another man.
 
#5 He likes it in the ass. A guy who gets excited by homosexuality would definitely like something in the ass when he’s having sex. Does your man enjoy getting penetrated by your dildo more than he likes penetrating you?
 
Guys love penetrating. If a guy enjoys getting penetrated more than getting penetrated, he’s obviously going to like a real boner more than a plastic toy up his ass.
 
#6 A lot of his friends live in the closet. If a man has a lot of friends who are closet gays, there’s a good chance that he too may be one. We’ve all heard that line, birds of the same feather flock together, and that adage has almost always held true.
 
#7 He enjoys the attention of other men. Does your man enjoy watching other semi-clad men when he gets the chance? Or do you catch him “accidentally” flashing to a guy, be it on a vacation or somewhere else? Straight guys may like attention, but only if from the opposite sex. 
 
#8 He watches a lot of gay porn. Straight guys watch gay porn now and then too. Curiosity is watching one or two gay action videos now and then. Sexual pleasure is when a guy watches more than ten gay porn movies in a row.
 
#9 Gifting time. He buys expensive gifts for a few of his guy friends. You may assume it’s because of the bond they share, but if he’s constantly buying little luxuries for a good looking cute male friend, chances are, your man is hitting on him. After all, homosexual men have to woo their lovers too.
 
#10 Secret conversations. Have you ever felt like you just missed something when your man’s hanging out with another man around you? Do you find your man indulging in suspicious non-verbal communication with his male friends, perhaps a lingering gaze, a touch that lasts way longer than necessary, or a man to man hug that just feels weird?
 
#11 He doesn’t talk about gays. Now there are two kind of gay men. Some men go to great lengths to talk about how normal it is to be gay. And other men get snappy and rude when you talk about homosexuality. It’s a reflex action thing. Intense emotions always bring out intense expressions.
 
#12 He crashes in a friend’s place often. It’s easier for a man to have an affair with another man than to have an affair with a woman. Nobody ever thinks it’s weird for two men to sleep in the same room. But does your man spend a lot of time with a particular friend? 
 
If your man likes hanging out with a friend several weekends in a year, and you can’t recollect this friend ever dating any girl, it’s definitely alright to get suspicious.
 
Some guys find it easier to use the excuse of fishing trips and hiking weekends to enjoy a good man to man weekend. And some other guys go out of town over work to hook up with guys they met online.
 
#13 He gets very touchy with another man. This is especially obvious when he’s drunk. When a heterosexual guy’s drunk, he may use this excuse to snuggle up with girls he has a crush on, not with guys. But if a guy’s not straight in his sexual orientation, his will to be subtle about his affection for another man who’s present with both of you may not be strong enough. And he may end up saying or doing something that gives his secret away.
 
#14 Walking in on him. When you just step into your place and walk in on your man and his friend, do they behave in a weird way like they’re trying to cover something up? They may be planning your secret birthday party. But if you constantly catch them in an awkward moment, it’s time to bring out the nanny cam.
 
#15 Trust your instincts. This is as simple and easy as it gets. Trust your instincts. Almost always, if you can think it, it has a good chance of being true. But even if you do think it, have a few valid reasons to justify what’s on your mind. Don’t jump to conclusions without proof or justification.
 
Signs your guy may not be gay
 
#1 He wears tight clothes and bold patterns. He’s probably just confident about his appearance.
 
#2 He grooms himself. Just because a guy’s aware of cosmetics and tweezers doesn’t mean he’s gay.
 
#3 He loves girlie things. He may just be fascinated by women.
 
#4 He doesn’t like sports. There are many guys who don’t give a damn about sports.
 
#5 He’s a neat freak. Being a perfectionist or one who likes everything in order doesn’t make him a homosexual man. He may just be more refined and neater than the average guy.
 
If you’ve been wondering about how to tell if a guy is gay, use these 15 signs and if you can strike off more than a handful of these signs, there’s a good chance that there’s something happy and gay in the air.

From Love Panky

It’s not easy to recognize the signs of an abusive relationship, especially when you’re madly in love with someone

It usually starts with verbal abuse.

Sarcasm enters the picture.

And one day, something gets thrown at you.

An abusive relationship isn’t scary just because it hurts.

It’s scary because you’re usually tricked into it.

You’d think you’re in a perfect relationship and look forward to your happily ever after, until the world comes crashing down on you as you watch helplessly.

The world of abusive relationships

If you’re experiencing an abusive relationship or have experienced one at some point in your life, you’d understand the helplessness of the situation.

You feel isolated and all alone, and no one seems to understand the quicksand you’re stuck in.

But you need to understand something here. You aren’t alone. There are several people around you who are experiencing an abusive relationship right now.

It isn’t just women who experience abusive relationships. More often than not, several men experience it silently without ever talking about it with anyone.

Kinds of abusive relationships

Abusive relationships don’t always come in the form of  a black eye or a busted lip.

And it isn’t always a boyfriend or a spouse who traumatizes you with abuse. You could experience some form of abuse from your siblings, parents, kids, your coworkers, your boss or just about anyone else you interact with.

If someone drains your happiness, makes you feel weak and helpless, or makes you feel miserable for any reason, chances are, you’re being abused by them and you don’t even realize it!

There are two kinds of abusive relationships you could experience, emotional abuse and physical abuse.

Physical abuse could shatter you from the outside, while emotional abuse would shatter you from within. Both kinds of abuse are traumatizing, but it hurts the most when you experience them together.

If you’re living through an abusive relationship where you see no way to escape, don’t give up on hope. Don’t give up on making yourself stronger. And most importantly, don’t give up on life and contemplate suicide.

You will survive through this. All you need to do is read on, and understand what you need to do to get stronger.

The 16 devious signs of an abusive relationship

The first step to finding the solution, and to find the escape from the abuse is to read the signs for what it is. For most of us, recognizing the problem is always harder than overcoming it. If a partner slaps you or verbally abuses you in front of your friends, what do you do?

Do you believe that you deserved it because it was your fault? Do you confront your partner? Or do you wait for your partner to calm down before you have a word with them in private? What you do here makes all the difference.

It’s not easy to recognize the signs of an abusive relationship, especially when you’re madly in love with someone. But use these 16 devious abusive relationship signs, and the truth will unfold before your eyes. If you’re experiencing even a few of these signs, it’s time to be worried because you’re probably locked in an abusive relationship already.

#1 A big disappointment. Your partner always treats you like you’re a big disappointment. They always pick flaws with what you do, even if everyone else thinks you’re perfectly capable. This creates a deep need within you to constantly try to please them by bending over backwards, because you don’t want to upset them. And most importantly, you crave for their acknowledgement and compliments more than anything else!

#2 The embarrassment. Your partner embarrasses and insults you in public for the smallest of reasons. They do this to embarrass you into submission in front of others, and prevent you from confronting them again in public. They may even raise their voice or create a scene just to make you feel awkward and submit to their demand.

#3 Verbal abuses. Does your partner abuse you verbally using foul language every now and then? It doesn’t matter what the reason is, but if your partner uses bad language, you need to give this a very serious thought.

#4 The first hit. One of the biggest signs that you’re stepping into the sad world of abusive relationships is the first physical outburst. Has your partner ever hit you at least once in the heat of the moment?

#5 Making up after the fight. An abusive partner who hits you or verbally abuses you will always try to make up after a fight. They may even try to win you back with sweet words and eternal promises.

On the other hand, a few abusive partners may give you the silent treatment and sulk in a corner and pretend like the fight was entirely your fault. Either ways, you may end up feeling sorry for them and try to cheer them up.

#6 Forced endings. Your partner may use force to end an argument, either by pushing you away, standing really close to you in an intimidating posture or by raising their hand and walking away.

#7 The slap. Your partner may slap you now and then. Initially, it may be a quick and sharp pat on the cheek for silly errors and at other times, they would slap you harder to punish you for being stupid or careless. Don’t put up with it. It’s a physically abusive person’s way of weaning you and breaking you down so you get used to the abuse.

#8 The controlling partner. At the beginning, your partner may try to behave like they’re involved in your life. But very soon, you’d start to see that you’re being completely controlled by your partner. And eventually, you’d lose all your friends and you’d be all alone and completely dependent on your partner, which is just what they want.

#9 The dominant abuser. Your partner is dominating and always wants things their way. They never give in to your wishes, and even if they do, they may sulk or argue with you until you give in to their bidding.

#10 Blowing hot and cold. An abusive person is extremely unpredictable in their behavior and their moods change from happy to angry in a flash for no apparent reason. And this unpredictable bipolar behavior is almost always directed only towards you, not at their friends or their boss.

#11 Dominance and submission. Your abusive partner grovels at your feet when you pick up your courage and take a stand, or when you pack your bags to leave. And just when they see you softening or feeling pity for them, they stamp you down at the first sign of your weakness.

#12 Picking faults. Your partner always bristles with rage when you pick their faults. They walk away in a huff when you request them to correct something. On the other hand, they treat you like a spoilt child and expect you to listen to them completely as they yell at you for even the smallest mistakes you make.

Additionally, abusive lovers never apologize. And the only circumstance when they do apologize is when you start yelling louder than them and take a strong stand.

#13 The support system. They convince you that you can’t exist without their support. You lose your own your individuality and you’d start to doubt yourself and your capabilities. Eventually, no matter what anyone else says, you’d never be able to walk away as you can’t imagine living without your abusive lover’s support because you’re so dependent on them.

#14 The blame game. An abusive lover will blame you for their problems. Right from why they got late to work to their miserable life, they’d always blame you for it. And on the rare occasion when they can’t fault you, an abusive partner will never accept blame, instead they’d place blame elsewhere or on someone else.

#15 Persuasive behavior. A person who abuses you is also a skilled manipulator. They’d speak to you convincingly and make you believe that their outburst was because of your fault or mistake and not theirs. This person will always make you doubt yourself and make you believe that everything was your fault, and none of this would have happened if you were a better person.

And because of this, you always end up giving them another chance. You feel convinced that you somehow had a big part to play and it was you who caused the outburst because of your faults.

#16 Out of control. Your partner may make it seem like their outburst is out of their control and they can’t hold themselves back. But yet, they seem to lose their cool only around you! It’s surprising, isn’t it, that your partner never loses their cool around important people whose good books they want to enter?

How to get away from abusive relationships

Now that you’re read these abusive relationship signs, it should be easy for you to find out if you’re living through one right now. The signs you see may be subtle or at other times, it may be glaring and obvious.

Sometimes, it’s easier to use these signs and listen to your own gut. Do you feel like you deserve to be happier? Do you feel like you’re being abused in the relationship? Do you feel weak and helpless?

Here are four steps you need to use to get the strength to believe in yourself again, and build the courage to face your abusive partner.

#1 You don’t need this person. Stop convincing yourself that you need your abusive partner to exist. It’s not easy because you’ve been manipulated into believing that you’re dependent on them. Start one step at a time, and try to do things independently.

#2 Take back control of your life. Don’t put up with the abuse quietly. Don’t be afraid to make a scene. It’s almost always the one thing that scares an abuser away. You may be scared to take a stand, but the very minute you do, you’ll start to feel your own confidence and independence welling up inside of you.

#3 Get help. When you’re involved in an abusive relationship, it’s never easy to confront it all by yourself. Get some kind of support, be it a friend or the family and let this person know what you’re experiencing. Talk to them about how you should handle the abuse, and if need be, get professional help.

#4 Find your own happiness. For a very long time, you’ve forgotten what it feels like to be genuinely happy without having to worry about what your abusive partner would want or think. Put the abusive relationship as a bad page in your life and move on. Try to find happiness by staying around people who care for you, and who want you to be happy. Over time, you’ll look back at the abusive relationship and wonder what took you so long to walk away!

Nip it in the bud

This is something everyone needs to know. Address abusive behavior as soon as you sense it in your relationship. Your first reaction to abuse makes all the difference.

Most of us overlook the first abuse because we’re in love or care too much about this person. But your reaction to the first verbal abuse or the first punch will determine how the future of the relationship would turn out. If you accept it meekly, or even try to apologize for making a mistake, you’re paving the path to more pain and darker abuse.

The last word about abusive relationships

Today is the first day of the rest of your life. You probably know that line already. By continuing to live in an abusive relationship where you’re putting everything aside just to get your partner’s affection, you’re not just affecting yourself.

You’re affecting your family, your friends and your kids if you have any. And one day, the people who stand up for you may eventually start disliking you and distancing themselves from you because you don’t listen to them, and yet ask them for help all the time.

Take a stand. As hard as it may seem right now to confront an abusive lover, it’ll seem much easier and you’d feel more confident the very next time you take a stand for what you believe in.

And lastly, remember this, you are not responsible for an abusive lover’s actions, nor can you change an abusive partner. Some people can’t change, and the safest bet you can take is walking away.

The question that always seems to get asked in relationship forums is this: Do Black men/women know what they want? It’s funny, most black men say that black women don’t and many black women argue back, “No, it’s y’all who don’t know what you want!”

I remember some years back, I talked with a successful Black man who had been a long time friend of mine. He had the great job, he owned his home, he was involved in church, he offered to pay for the meal (and we were just friends). Without fail, our catching up would invariably lead to a discussion about our dating lives. I often left our discussions puzzled however that he would list the qualities he was looking for in a woman and would ask me my opinion about things yet didn’t seem to notice that I had every single quality he was looking for.

So what’s up with that? Why is it that the people we complain to are the very ones who have what we say we are looking for but more-times-than-not we don’t see it?

I have a theory. Okay, here it is: It’s because we don’t know how to recognize it. That’s my theory. Our brains are hardwired because of our experiences in life and how we were raised or not raised to be. Have you ever talked with a girlfriend who said, “I like bad boys!” Yet, she spends all of her time trying to make him into a good boy and bellyaches that he won’t treat her with respect, care or consideration. Hello? Bad boy?

In April 2011, I posted a blog entitled “You Can’t Help Who You’re Attracted To. Oh Really?.” There, I challenged the belief that we are victims of attraction, doomed to unrequieted and unreciprocated affections. We aren’t. I’ll say it again, a little louder this time: WE AREN’T. We are not victims. We are ill-informed. We are misguided. We are a tad insane. But we are not victims. I believe that with the right information and a willingness to learn, we can retrain ourselves to be attracted to kind, warm, genuine, AVAILABLE people.

There is a difference between euphoria and anxiety. Euphoria is when our brains are saturated with pleasure hormones. We walk around in a drugged happy excited state. That’s normal in the early stages of meeting someone and initial dating. But this tossing and turning, I can’t eat, I can’t sleep, muddle-brainedness is not euphoria. It’s called anxiety. Waiting by the phone to see if he or she will call or adjusting the volume over and over again to make sure you don’t miss a call is not euphoric. It’s called compulsion. It’s anxious. It’s awful!

Merriam Webster defines compulsion this way. It’s an irresistible persistent impulse to perform an act. The Free Dictionary adds, “…regardless of the rationality of the motivation.” Compulsion has an irrational component as well as a psychiatric component. Don’t worry, you aren’t ready for the paddy wagon just yet though. Usually, compulsions can be dissuaded if the root of the anxiety is addressed. This is why dating online for me was so therapeutic. Knowing that there were thousands of men out there to choose from, one man not returning my calls was of no consequence. As the saying goes, “there are plenty of fish in the sea.”

The first step is knowing what you want in a partner, this is true. In an earlier article submission to Black Life Coaches, “Hold Your Standards and Don’t Settle For Less,” I clarified how preference differs from having a standard.

The second step is just as important: recognizing it when he or she shows up. To demonstrate this further, let’s revisit the bad boy attraction. When you peel this banana back, the allure is his confidence and his swagger. He seems to be in command of things and that is very attractive to most women. I get it and I ain’t mad at you. Being with a man whom we feel can take care of things is a legitimate standard. Some, like President Obama, wear it for all to see. Others don’t. Understanding this, I invite you to broaden your perception. There are also good men out there who have just as much command of things, but they are not as overt with it. You’ll have to be more discerning. As you observe him–not what he’s wearing, not what he looks like, not what he owns–you’ll notice it in how honorably he handles your feelings. In his consistent “show up” attitude. In how he puts your needs above his own convenience.

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Suzette Hinton obtained a degree in Human Services Technology specializing in Substance Abuse Counseling and a subsequent certification with honors as a Life and Mentor Coach.

by Jesse Ford for Reach For Happy

There are laws that govern the process of getting rich and when applied by any one, the person is bound to become rich. The reality is that anyone who practices these principles knowingly or unknowingly becomes rich

n 1910, a man named Wallace Wattles published a book titled The Science of Getting Rich. He claimed that anyone who followed the process laid out in the book was bound to become rich with mathematical certainty. It turns out that since its publication and up until today, men and women have used the processes he laid out to become very rich. The processes in his book are summarized and outlined here in modern day English.

Anyone can follow the processes and become rich because getting rich is as a result of doing things in a CERTAIN WAY – like causes always produce like effects. Anyone with an imagination and some discipline follow the processes. These principles work regardless of your current financial status, profession, business, career, or geographic location.

Ofcourse you will naturally do better in a business or profession that is in alignment with your personality. A good personality test will reveal which environment suits you best, your primary motivations, and what career suits your personality best. It will also provide a guide how you should direct your energies. To fast-track your progress by understanding what suits you best, you should start of by taking this personality test which is one of the best available, and create an alignment between your efforts and your energies. Take the personality test by clicking here

Principles from The Science of Getting Rich

Principle 1 – Create the Mental Image and Hold On To It
The force that created the earth is still working today. Creation is happening as you read this and thought is the only power that can produce tangible riches. Everything you see is a product of thought. Therefore you should create a picture of the things you desire. Thougt in the creative plane produces the thing that is held in that thought.

A person has the power to create the things he or she thinks about in a sustained and consistent way. Regardless of your current financial circumstances, in your mind you need to create a picture of what you desire. Create the thought in your mind and hold on to it. You will notice that to think of your current reality and financial situation is easy and does not require much effort, however the power and secret lies in your ability to create the image you desire and hold on to it in your mind and hold onto it as truth.

A person who can think in a sustained and consecutive way of riches when in poverty and surrounded by poverty or the appearance of it, becomes a master mind. It is the first principle to practice to become rich. Thankfully there are processes and tools that can help. There are advanced visualization techniques available today that help to manifest your desires easier, faster, and effortlessly. Essentially you create motivational, customized movies of your mental images and it changes your entire life by your devoting just a few minutes a day. To create your customized movies of your mental images click here.

Hold the mental image of what you desire with positive certainty that it is being made and it is on its way to you.

Principle 2 – Know That It Is Your Right to Be Rich
Understand and accept that it is the will of the Creator for you to be rich. You do not serve God or humanity by being in lack of any kind. For these principles to work for you, you must understand and fully accept that it is God’s will for you to be rich.

Wealth and riches are created with these principles in the creative plane and not in the competitive plane, therefore rid your mind of the idea that you can only become rich when the universe takes from someone else and gives it to you; or that you have to cheat or defraud others. When you follow these principles, you move to the creative plane, do not therefore think that supplies are limited. Cultivate an abundance mentality.

The Creator of the Universe is still creating today. Your creative power stays at work when you keep your mind and thoughts on the creative plane or else you enter into the competitive plane and halt your power to create. Never ever limit your thinking to the things that already exist, but understand and accept that what you desire and which you are holding in your mind in mental images is being created for you.

Principle 3 – Deliver Value
Operating in the creative plane means that as you engage in business dealings with others you should adopt a service culture where you are serving humanity. In business give to everyone more in use value than you take from them in cash value. Ensure that you deliver value to people; whether you are in business for yourself or you are in paid employment.

This means that you do not sell products or services for the sake of it, but rather you ensure that you are giving people use value. This applies regardless of your career; business, employment, etc.

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Jesse Ford is a developer, author, and publisher. His interest and expertise is new thought, spirituality, personal development, and utilizing your inner power. Visit Reach for Happy (www.reachforhappy.com) to get more information, tools, and resources that can guide and help you to create a brighter, happier, and more fulfilling life.

Mr. Jealousy
At first, he’ll get a little short with a waiter who flirts with you. Then he’ll be exasperated by how long you and the postmaster discuss the rising price of stamps. When he points out that you and your brother hug too long to be appropriate, or that your gynecologist is a lesbian and obviously has the hots for you, it’s time to give him his walking papers. However flattering his jealousies may seem in the first five minutes of your relationship, they’ll get old and confining more quickly than you can imagine, and when you do finally break up with him, he will hang the scarves you left behind on your trees like nooses and follow you and the next man you date all over town.

The Bully
This is the man who sits you down, grabs your arm, pulls your hair, or pokes your chest. While most of us know better than to let ourselves get socked in the mouth (but even then never following through), there’s a whole universe of more “minor” infractions in the violence department that should disqualify your new beau instantaneously (but all too often does not).

The Two-Timer
For the first time since you’ve been dating, he’s too sick to make a date. You try to ignore the fact that it happens to be your birthday, and you assemble the ingredients for your famous chicken soup. You drop it off inside his door. Two days later, he’s still sick, but you’ve been invited over. You ask if you can heat up some soup for him, and he says, in a small, congested voice, “That would be wonderful.” You pour the soup from the Tupperware into the pot, and you see that there are mushrooms in it. Your famous chicken soup doesn’t contain mushrooms. Conclude that this man has another source of soup and will continue to cheat on you for as long as you give him the chance.

The “Liberated” Man
I used to have a friend who said, “I seem to have a very liberating effect on whatever man I’m dating. We go on three dates, and the next thing I know he’s moved in with me, he’s quit his job, and his car is up on blocks in my yard.” Certain men are more prone to this type of liberation than others, I have found: Carpenters, river guides, and flamenco guitarists all fall into the category of men who are perfectly willing to hand themselves over to the care of a good woman, as well as visual artists, stage performers, and racers (ski, bike, boat) of all kinds.

The Betrayed
I seem to have dated an inordinate number of men who have just been left by a woman for a woman. In general, these men are angry beyond all reason, no matter to what lengths they may go to disguise it, and if you date one, be ready to give up all your girlfriends, or you will be accused of being a lesbian, too.

The Narcissist
He doesn’t like your dog? Do we even need to talk about this one? Put it at the top of the category that includes he won’t make eye contact with your kid, he doesn’t want to meet your sister, and he whines the first time you make plans with your girlfriend. A man threatened by the love you have for the dog you sleep with is going to be threatened by more things than you can name. Dating him is inviting the type of conflict into your life that will make you tired before you even get up in the morning.

Mr. Resentment
Pay close attention to how he handles your accomplishments. If you get a promotion with a raise and he breaks it down to show you how it really only amounts to six dollars a day after taxes, that’s the first strike. When he uses any expression like “your little project,” count that as two. Just because men are having a hard time adjusting to the idea that women are capable breadwinners doesn’t mean you have to martyr yourself into helping them make the transition. There are men out there who are more than happy to bask in the glow their women cast and to consider your talents a positive reflection on them.

The Virtual Lover
What a relief it is when a man doesn’t try to force you into bed on the first date. How charmed you are when, on the third date, he says he wants to wait until “you both can’t stand it anymore.” How sympathetic you become when, on the sixth date, he tells you how badly he was hurt by your predecessor. How confused you are six months later when you’ve realized his pager goes off every time you get unclad, but he’s still sending you roses and talking teddy bears. A surprising number of great romancers out there never get around to having sex. To the date-weary woman, this can seem like not the worst combination, but beware. Eventually he will blame his problems on the smell of your breath or the size of your thighs.

The Guy Who Had the Happiest Childhood This Side of the Beav
His mother was perfect; his father never smoked or drank or cheated. He hates the way his friends blame their parents for everything, when he and his seven brothers and sisters had love pouring down on them from the moment they woke in the morning until they went to bed. However refreshing this might sound the first time you hear it, listen carefully for a voice that is trying to convince itself, listen for the creak and crack of a personal mythology in the throes of shattering. When it comes crashing to the ground, it’s going to make a very big noise, and most likely your relationship will come crashing down with it.

Joe No-Show
You meet in a city where neither of you lives, at a convention or a wedding. The calls and e-mails are making the phone lines sweat; two months later he’s begging you to visit. You tell the woman next to you on the plane that after years of searching you think you’ve met The One, and the two of you giggle with anticipation all the way to baggage claim. Thirty minutes later, when the carousel stops going around, she looks at you with deep pity and asks if she can give you a ride somewhere. That’s the moment to go straight back to the ticket counter.

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by Dr. John Grohol

While most of the time we try and stay positive here on World of Psychology, every now and again reality sucker-punches us back to our senses (although not personally affecting me).

The fact remains that despite our wise advice over the years, we haven’t budged the divorce rate in the U.S. (not that we thought we could!). Most relationships fail — there’s simply no way to argue with it.

So maybe it would help some of our readers to catch a sign of their failing relationship before it’s too late. Sure, we all would like to think that we could see the end of our relationship coming from a mile away. But truth is, many of us need a little help.

To that end, here are 8 ways you can bet you’re ruining your relationship and heading to splitsville.

1. Take your partner for granted.

There’s no better way to help hurry the end of the relationship than to just assume your partner is always there to make your life easier. Whether it’s by going to work or staying at home, cooking dinner or doing the grocery shopping, the ins and outs of our every day existence can take an especially hard toll when it comes to taking that special someone in our lives for granted.

Acknowledge your significant other’s efforts to your joint relationship and life together (no matter who is doing what). Say “Thank you” and “please” for being served something or for someone doing you a favor. After all, you wouldn’t treat a stranger in your home in that manner, so why would you treat the one you love any worse?

2. Stop talking.

Remember the start of your relationship? You couldn’t stop talking! You might’ve spent all night talking to one another, or countless hours on the phone or cuddled up on a couch somewhere.

Relationships die when the two people in it stop talking. And I don’t mean actual, physical talking (“We talk all the time!”). I mean the kind of real, honest conversations that couples have all the time at the beginning of a relationship, but which fade over time. Here’s help for improving your communication with your partner.

That fading is a natural progression in most relationships. The key is to not let that fading turn into never having those real conversations (which aren’t about the kids, your jobs, or what you read on TMZ today).

3. Stop expressing your feelings.

As we go along in a relationship, it’s also natural to stop saying, “I love you” as often. Or showing anger when you’re angry at your partner, or showing adoration when you’re feeling especially loving toward them. It’s as if the extremes of our emotions are taken away, and all we have left is a lot of moderate, unsexy feelings.

As much as you might think those feelings are too boring to share, they remain just as important to share. Yes, the passionate feelings at the beginning of any relationship tend to fade for most people. But that doesn’t mean you stop feeling, or that you should stop telling your loved one how you feel.

4. Stop listening.

Nobody likes to not be heard. So there’s no better way to kill a relationship than to stop listening to what your partner has to say.

It shows a lack of respect for the person, and of course your significant other will pick up on the fact that you’re no longer listening. If nobody’s listening, how can a relationship grow or thrive? Especially important is something called active listening, which shows your partner you’re actively engaged in the conversation.

5. Kill the fun.

We hook up together in life for many reasons — shared perspectives and outlooks, physical attraction, shared spirituality, shared professional lives, etc. But we also enjoy one another’s company because it’s fun!

When fun leaves a relationship, it can be a sign that the relationship is heading to the rocks. Fun is a part of life and it’s definitely a part of any healthy relationship. However you and your significant other define fun, it’s important to keep doing it even as your relationship matures.

Love to dance but haven’t been in years? It’s time to make a new dance date. Met while hiking or kayaking, but haven’t made time to do it in months (or years)? Pack the backpack and get your outdoors on.

6. Nitpick.

Boy, am I guilty of this one! I’ve probably nitpicked a few past relationships into an early death. Not because I wanted to, but because it was a personal concern whose impact I never fully understood (until it was too late).

Nobody likes being told what to do, or how to do it. While some people may be more open to “suggestions” than other from their helpful partner, it can also be seen as nitpicking for little good reason.

Really? There’s a “better” way to clean the sink? That’s nice… use it the next time you do it then.

When I want to nitpick nowadays, I just keep in mind that if I want to go to the trouble of offering unrequested advice, I might as well suggest I do it myself. Or just do it next time myself, without having someone needing to ask.

Nitpicking may be a sign of needing to “control” others, but it may also just be a sign of the way some people were brought up. In any case, it’s a bad habit and one you should try and curtail in your relationship.

7. Threaten.

Wow, threatening your significant other is such a turn-on. Yeah, no it’s not. Whether you’re threatening to leave, chop off a bit of anatomy, tell someone’s parents, or find a better life in Maui, it’s never a good sign for a healthy relationship.

Threats are often made in an act of desperation or feeling like a situation is out of control — the threat is an attempt to regain control. However, threats are juvenile and more suited for children’s temper tantrums than an adult, mature relationship.

When a partner resorts to threats, it’s time to re-evaluate the relationship’s long-term potential.

8. Ignore your partner.

They say the one thing worse than being hated by someone is simply to be ignored by them. Being ignored means the person doesn’t even care enough to waste the energy of anger on you.

The same is true with relationships. If you take a lot of the previous tips and add them together, you have active ignoring. If you’re ignoring your partner (or vice-a-versa) for any period of time longer than a few days, that’s a sure sign the relationship is in trouble.

You don’t hook up with a person only to be ignored by them. If anybody wanted that, we’d simply go relive our high school prom. (Ooops, I shared too much!)

The good news is that these signs don’t necessarily mean your relationship is over. There is always hope, especially when both of your recognize some of these signs and decide you want to reconnect to try and grow your relationship.

If you can’t do it on your own — and a weekend getaway may be a good way to try — don’t fret. Although it may sound scary or extreme to think about, this is exactly what couple’s counseling is for. Any good couple’s therapist can help most couples improve their relationship in just a few sessions (although it may take more than a few, depending upon the seriousness of the problems).

Talk to your partner about your concerns. Then seek help if your own personal attempts to help improve the relationship don’t work out. I believe a great number of relationships have the possibility of being saved, if both partners are committed to working on changing it — and then take action.

Dr. John Grohol is the CEO and founder of Psych Central. He is an author, researcher and expert in mental health online, and has been writing about online behavior, mental health and psychology issues — as well as the intersection of technology and human behavior — since 1992. Dr. Grohol sits on the editorial board of the journalCyberpsychology, Behavior and Social Networking and is a founding board member and treasurer of the Society for Participatory Medicine.

Being able to decipher the fine line between moans of pleasures or groaning with discomfort is vital.

This is one question to which every guy seems to have an answer and yet, most men find themselves lost, trying to figure out why their woman didn’t react as enthusiastically they had imagined.The problem lies in men perceiving séx in a very typical, miniscule way. While many try to ape maneuvers preached in prohibited content accessible on the web, the more intellectual types turn to books and weird yogic postures. Somehow, people forget that most problems have a rather simple solution, i.e. in doing the basics right. This article tries to decode what can be done to impress your girl in bed without trying something extreme or ridiculous.
Fool Around, Mix-up & Experiment with Foreplay

Most women like to be teased before actually committing to the act of séx. You can understand it as a kind of comprehensive foreplay which includes everything from kissing her slightly, giving her those typical lewd looks, passing comments about the size of her breasts or her shapely outline.
Anything that can physically or psychologically stimulate her is good enough. This form of foreplay extends even when initiating séx. The idea should be to prolong the foreplay before doing it, getting her excited to the maximum.
This includes something as simple as whispering your wildest fantasies in her ears, breathing heavily and licking the insides of her ears and cupping the insides of her thighs as you verbally detail your intentions of munching upon every part of her chocolaty body.
Try to Listen to Her Body

An inherent part of being good in bed is to being able to decipher what she wants. If you cannot decode what is making her uncomfortable or what turns her on, impressing your girl in the bed could be a major challenge. For this, you need to become a lot more perceptive.
Being able to decipher the fine line between moans of pleasures or groaning with discomfort is vital. For instance, using the fingers to pleasure a girl is common. However, some women might not react encouragingly to this. Basically, you need to back down from what becomes more painful rather than pleasurable.
Initiate Séx when Least Expects to Impress Her in Bed

Initiating séx in typical environments like your bedroom or getting it on during the same time slots can make séx predictable. You need to understand that the surroundings or situations in which you make love have a lot to do to the degree she can be turned-on.
For instance, you might be planning to impress her in the bed tonight, but rather than initiating the foreplay after reaching home, get started prematurely. When she is about to leave office, you can SMS provocative messages to her. When she is seated in the car, caress her thighs, every time you make a stop at the traffic light.
You can also change the backdrop for getting intimate. Try to initiate séx at the most unexpected moments. For instance, during early mornings, start cozying up to her, rubbing her back or caressing her breasts while she is still asleep. For many women, this combination of sleepy haze and being caressed by their men is an instant, erotic high.
Make Her Feel Desired like a Séxual Goddess

Many women get disappointed since men make séx dependent upon some fixed parameters. For instance, having your girl naked, within the confines of your locked room might be the rules that you have unintentionally established. However, you can seriously impress your girl in bed, if you are ready to think out of the box.
For example, ask her to cook wearing the tiniest of lingerie gowns. Make her do teeny-weeny bits of housework wearing something that hardly covers her. She should feel your gaze on her body. By the time you catch hold of her and head to the bedroom, she would be clawing the clothes off your body. This is a perfect example of how séxuality is primarily in our minds. If your girl is convinced that you just cannot get enough of her, she will never be disappointed in the bed.
Tease Her Shamelessly Before Bedding Her

Yes, some people regard teasing as an inherent part of foreplay. Some examples of the same have been listed above too. However, where stimulating foreplay ends, unashamed séxual teasing begins. There are many ways do this. Ideally, this should be done when you haven’t indicated to her about your intentions of having séx.

For instance, you guys are in the lift, headed to an office party and she is wearing a graceful saree or any dress that slightly exposes her mid-riff. Slither your hands all over her bare waist, clenching her flesh with your fingers. When at the party, distance yourself from her. Start texting her about the different men who are staring at her. Be very detailed in what part of her they are staring at and why. By the time you guys are headed back, she would be more eager than you to get it on in the bed. Here, you have guaranteed that you will impress her in bed by blatantly arousing her.

Although losing belly fat is among the most difficult aspects of weight loss, by following the proper diet and exercise routine it is possible to lose belly fat in 2 weeks. All you have to do is be consistent in your efforts and follow healthy guidelines.

1. Stay away from junk food

When you are in a rush and want to eat something you find that fast food is the ideal solution. While this will fight your hunger quickly it is not very good if you want to lose your belly fat or weight. So, if you are serious about your efforts to burn fat you need to stay away from fast food and from food that is fried and full of saturated fats. Keep your distance from red meat and eat fish, red tuna and generally food that is low in fat.

2. Fiber is your friend

Fiber can help you in many ways. When you eat foods with fiber your appetite is reduced because fiber helps you fight hunger for a lot of time. Fiber can be found is big quantities in fruits and vegetables so try for 2 weeks to replace other food with fresh, green fruits and boiled (or fresh) vegetables.

3. Eat less than you used to

To reverse a situation with your weight or fat you need to eat less food than you are used to. This is the only way to get rid of the extra pounds. If for example you are currently consuming 3000 calories per day then you can reduce the calorie intake to 2200 calories per day. This saving of 800 calories will help you lose 1 pound every 3 days (1 pound is aprx 3500 calories).

4. Metabolism does matter

Metabolism is how fast or slow your body is able to burn calories and fat. The greater the metabolism the easier will be for you to lose weight. There are two ways to increase your metabolism. The first way is by eating regular meals every 3-4 hours. This means that you should eat a good breakfast and then after 2-3 hours a fresh fruit, after 2-3 hours you can have a salad for lunch and then a low fat snack in the afternoon and dinner.

It is important that you do not skip any meals and also that you keep a fixed schedule for your meals. By a fixed schedule we mean that you should eat the same time every day. This will help you body establish a routine that will accelerate your metabolism. The second way to boost your metabolism is through regular exercise.

People who exercise and are fit find it easier to maintain their normal weight. Try to exercise regularly on a weekly basis for at least 20 minutes per day. For better results you can combine different forms of exercise i.e. cardio exercises and weight training.

5. Beware of dehydration

When you want to lose weight quickly as in 2 weeks the first thing your body will get rid off is liquid (mainly water). By losing water weight you run into the risk of dehydration especially if you follow a strict diet. To protect yourself from this you should drink at least 6 glasses of water per day. This is essential and vital in order to maintain a healthy body.

If you find it difficult to keep up with drinking water you can carry with you a small bottle of water so as to remind yourself that you need to drink water. Finally do not confuse other drinks with water. If you drink juices and coffees during the day this does not mean that you are drinking water. You should try and drink the required amount of pure, fresh water.

When you enter a routine for losing belly fat in 2 weeks you need to have in mind that what you will do in these 2 weeks are steps to help you get a kick start with your weight loss. For sure two weeks are not enough to solve your fat problems especially in the belly area. Fat loss takes time and needs consistency and hard work.

For long lasting results you should aim for lifestyle changes that will include the steps described above as well as changes to the way you think, sleep, rest and stress levels. Set your goals and work until you achieve your goals. Visualize your new self without the extra fat and if you believe it enough you will make it.

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When two people kiss, they exchange between 10 million and 1 billion bacteria.

Did you know that the clitoris is the only bodily organ that exists solely for sexual pleasure? And blue balls isn’t just a term made up by horny (and disgruntled) teenage boys?

The book Scared Sh*tless: 1,003 Facts That Will Scare The Sh*t Out of You, by comedy writer Cary McNeal, is marketed as a bathroom reader and truthfully, I’m not one to be drawn to something like this on my own. However, it’s totally the perfect book to pick up between commercial breaks to read your guy—or whenever you need a few morsels of entertainment. Here are some of the biggest jaw-droppers related to Smitten’s favorite subject: sex!

Fact:The world’s largest recorded penis belongs to 41-year-old New Yorker Jonah Falcon, whose appendage measures 9.5 inches flaccid and 13.5 inches erect.Fact: The impulse to ejaculate comes from the spinal cord; no brain is needed.

Fact: The average male orgasm lasts six seconds; the average female orgasm lasts twenty seconds.

Fact: The left testicle usually hangs lower than the right for right-handed men. The opposite is true for lefties.

Fact: One out of every six Americans aged 14 to 49 has a genital herpes HSV-2 infection.

Fact: After fingers and vibrators, candles are the phallic objects used most often by female masturbators. Unlit ones, hopefully.

Fact: The most common cause of penile rupture is vigorous masturbation. If that happens, you’re doing it wrong.

Fact: When two people kiss, they exchange between 10 million and 1 billion bacteria.

Fact: The average vagina is three to four inches long but can expand by 200 percent when sexually aroused. It’s an optimistic organ.

Fact: Despite what men claim, only 15 percent have a penis longer than seven inches. Only 3 per cent have a penis more than eight inches long.

Fact: Orgasms can lower a woman’s risk of heart disease, stroke, breast cancer, and depression.

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Still stuck in the she-loves-me or she-loves-me-not phase? Here are some suggestions which will guide you with some ways to know if a girl likes you. Have a look and kiss your worries goodbye.
She looked at him with fluttering eyelashes, and flushed cheeks as he sat at a table nearby wondering whether she was really looking at him. After about two minutes she started playing with her hair and was staring directly at him with the dreamiest look he had ever seen. Convinced that this was it, he walked up to her and said, “Hi I’m Josh. Care to join me for a cup of coffee?” Totally taken aback by this, the girl looked at him and said, “Hi. I’m Monica, and sorry I can’t have coffee with you, I’m waiting for my boyfriend. He’ll be here, any minute now.”
It is always far more convenient and easy for guys to have certain set signs and symptoms that will confirm whether a girl is interested or not, but let me break this to you right now. No matter how much she flutters her eyelashes, or plays with her hair, you can never know for sure whether she likes you, unless she says so. Remember, the first rule to follow if you want to find out whether a girl likes you, is not to use generalized signs and symptoms to figure her out – every girl is different.

Clichés

Here are some of the signs that have been popularized over the years as ‘surefire ways to know whether a girl likes you’. Some of these might seem a bit silly, although people claim that these work. Personally, I think these are not applicable to every girl that you meet. Making inferences about a girl’s feelings merely by the way she looks at you or by the way she flutters her eyes might seem very romantic and mushy, just like they show in the movies, but then again, if all the things shown in the romantic chick flicks would come true, life would be a piece of cake. Here are five silliest clichéd ‘signs that a girl likes you’.

She plays with her hair while talking to you or while looking at you. (Really? Well it could be that she is using the Dove hair conditioner that makes you want to touch your hair… haven’t seen the ad eh?)
She touches her neck. (Seriously? What if she has a stiff neck that’s hurting real bad?)
She looks at you with dreamy eyes and looks at your lips. (Well, about the dreamy thing, make sure it is not dope and as for your lips, may be you have some ketchup or mustard from that sandwich you ate for lunch on them!)
She laughs at every joke you make even if it’s a crappy one. (Well, maybe she is just being polite).
She blushes when she sees you. (Maybe she remembers some silly joke that her friend told her about you)
Well, it is said that non-verbal cues say a lot, but then non-verbal cues like these are indications of temporary physical attraction which might not necessarily mean the possibility of a meaningful relationship.

My Version

In case the girl really likes you, here are some of the behavioral patterns that might get you closer to knowing what she feels. Remember, body language cues are more about physical attraction than long-term commitments and relationships. If you are one of those people who value every relationship in their lives, then physical attraction can only be a part of what you are looking for. In the end it is the emotional connection and compatibility that matters the most. Look for the following signs to know whether a girl seriously likes you:

She can talk, talk and talk about anything under the sun with you.
She never ever ignores you. She pays attention to you whenever you speak and never turns down an offer to spend time with you (unless of course she has a genuine reason).
She never tries to pretend when she’s around you. She is herself, which means she’s comfortable with you.
She is always helpful to you. She will go out of the way to help you out with your work without ever complaining and when you thank her, she’ll tell you you’d rather not.
She is the first one to congratulate you on your achievements or any special occasion.
She encourages you and supports you when you are feeling low. She’s the one who says don’t worry I’ll always be there for you and sticks to her word.
She calls you to say goodnight, and makes sure you have the sweetest dream ever.
She is genuinely concerned about your health and even snaps at you for not eating right or not taking care of yourself.
She enjoys chatting with you for hours together and discusses her experiences and her dreams with you.
Instead of passing flattering compliments, she’ll be honest with you and tell you what she likes as well as dislikes about you.
She doesn’t hesitate to share her long terms dreams and aspirations with you. When she talks about her future, she mentions you in it.
If you think these steps will help you know if a girl likes you, you might also want to read signs that a guy likes you, just to check if you’re sending out the right signals to her as well. Good luck!

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While men might brag to their friends about the kick-ass sex they’re having, they rarely get into specifics. And when it comes to actually divulging their secret desires to the women in their lives…well, they’re even more tight-lipped.
But they will tell Cosmo — in large part because they know we’ll pass on the information to you. So we spoke to a bunch of guys and experts to find out what tops men’s bedroom wish lists. Though every dude has different needs, “there are some universal sex moves and attitudes that most men want but don’t know how to request,” explains sex therapist Sandor Gardos, PhD, founder of MyPleasure.com. To learn about his carnal longings — and how to satisfy them — read on.
1. HE WANTS A GIRL WHO CAN TURN HERSELF ON
Women, as you know, need time to get revved up. Although your man may be more than willing to pull out all the stops to get you hot, he wouldn’t mind if you gave yourself a running start. “A number of women still believe that it’s solely a man’s job to arouse them,” says Georgia sex therapist Gloria Brame, PhD. “To have a really fulfilling sexual experience though, you have to put some effort into getting yourself into a sexual state of mind.”
To give your libido a boost, draw on the same sources of inspiration you use during solo self-pleasuring missions. Once his seduction scheme begins, close your eyes and fantasize about a hot encounter you had with your man…or even some other dude. “It’s totally okay to think about another sexual partner when you’re trying to turn yourself on,” reassures Brame. “You just might not want to tell your boyfriend about it.”
2. HE WANTS SEX TO BE FUN
Unfortunately, real-life romps aren’t as seamless as they are in the movies. “Things don’t always go smoothly during sex — some positions don’t work, and odd noises happen,” says Gardos. “If you get hung up on a mishap, it will ruin the mood. But if you can both laugh, it becomes a light bonding moment.”
Chas,* 28, agrees. “One night I tried a new move that wasn’t executed properly, and my girl hit her head on the nightstand! She didn’t hurt herself, so we could joke about it, and then we got back to what we were doing.”
Frisky fun is about more than damage control though. Make a silly bet to be paid off in sexual favors or play a board game naked in bed and agree that the loser has to grant the winner one lusty request.